As 2017 comes to an end, we become inundated with messages to reflect on the past year and to start making goals for 2018. While reflection and goal-setting are important for awareness and growth, it can also leave you feeling like time was wasted, defeated, as if you failed, or all of the above.
This last post in the 7 Weeks of Self-Care series has nothing to do with planning or goal-setting for the new year.
Nope. You will get enough of that everywhere else you turn…social media, magazine covers as you wait in the checkout line, commercials, family conversations. My one suggestion is to be a defensive consumer–consume nothing that has to do with how you need to change. I could rant on and on about this, but onto my next and only point.
Focus your energy on what went well and what you learned. HINT: Failure is a must-have for learning and success.
Feel like you are grasping at straws to find something that went well? Answer this…what would one of your closest friend be proud of you for? Still struggling? Ask them!
Something going well does not have to be some giant event or undertaking that you might be thinking of. Instead, it can be as simple as how you handled one holiday moment. Maybe you stood up for yourself for the first time. Maybe you asked for help when you usually just do all things on your own. Maybe you got through a dysfunctional family dinner without a breakdown. Maybe you totally screwed up and didn’t handle a moment as you would have liked, but you learned something about yourself from it.
Rather than holiday moments, maybe for the very first time you put yourself first during a time when you usually would have turned the other way. This could be the act of saying no, giving yourself permission to let go, or trying something new.
Or, your celebration of success might be acceptance–accepting you cannot control another’s behavior, accepting that you are enough, accepting change or transition.
Chances are, we have all had a mixed bag of a year. I say with confidence, that regardless of our experiences, we all have success to celebrate.
It is much easier and what some might call downright lazy, to focus on what went wrong. Focusing our energy on what went well and what we learned from failing will bring much more peace, clarity, direction and motivation as we get ready to take on a new year. Our wellness depends on it.
I challenge you to acknowledge your success, continue to celebrate YOU, and to be brave by allowing your authentic self to shine.
With that being said and without sadness, my professional life coaching journey has come to an end. I want to say thank you to all of you who have supported me during this short journey of life coaching entrepreneurship. A special shout-out to my best friend, Sophia, for setting me up with a logo and swag for a Christmas gift…these will not go unused and will play a role in future aspirations! TIP: Cherish your supportive friends and keep them close.
As short as this journey has been, it has ignited new flames of creativity and aspirations. More importantly, I have learned the bravery of others as well as myself. To say I am impressed is an understatement.
Ending 2017, the year of transitions, I will celebrate my successes, regardless of size, and will jump into 2018 continuing to spread love, take risks, and follow my North Star. I hope you do the same.
You do YOU!